I was just thinking, how do you start something that’s all about you, that’s your story, that’s your feeling, that’s you, that’s what we’ve been through? How do you start a rhyme that’s never going to get old, like when we were kids. That’s what I’m telling you, that’s what I’m trying to say.
What’s the most important advice you’ve been given?
There’s no advice. There’s no advice, but I think that I’ve learned enough about life for my kids to know that if they want to do it, then do it — in life’s sense of the word. That’s a great way to look at it. They’re going to do it, that’s just how they need to do it.
You wrote in your autobiography that you found an anchor in a certain character. If I may, I’ll ask: What do you know about him? Does he live in your heart?
He lives in myself. I was always kind of a little bit afraid of losing him. I always had a little bit of an idea of where he was heading, and he’s going to keep going. He doesn’t walk away from a fight. So I would have liked to have kept him a little bit for life. He has some things that I always felt that he should keep around, so he’ll always be there.
Would you have done anything differently if you felt that your relationship with your father had fallen apart?
I did. I did, but I’d have done the same thing. I wouldn’t have done the things I did without my father seeing how I was going and coming to terms with being a transgender person. I would have done the same things I did. He’s always been a good and a good friend, I just didn’t know how to express it. I don’t think he knew how to express it for me, either. I’ve learned that through my experiences and through my own understanding of what it is to be trans.
What about your brother, what does he feel about that?
He’s never questioned it, even since he was about 11 years old. I never felt, “Oh, I am a different person” or “This is my transition.” Everything that we’ve done’s been like an open book for him, whether that’s being happy, or struggling at the end or doing something that makes us happy. He knows that he, as a